How can you become the one for yourself and reclaim your power? Sheleana Aiyana, founder of Rising Woman, an international best selling author and spiritual writer had a tumultuous upbringing that began to impact how she showed up in relationships. So she embarked on the journey towards inner healing, and shared her discoveries with a community that grew to over 3 million. She teaches you how to stop abandoning yourself, widen your capacity to let love in, make peace with your past, and peel back the layers so you can reach the precious gem of your essence.

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TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS EPISODE:

1. All of our other relationships depend on how connected we are to ourselves.
2. You’re just constantly peeling back the layers until you get to the precious gem inside, which is your essence. That’s the truth of who you are.
3. When we’re in these triggered states, we need to drop back into our bodies and learn how to be with the sensations. Notice something that you can see, something you can hear, something you can smell, something you can taste, something you can feel. This will help you come back to center.
4. We’re not to blame. It’s just our capacity at the moment, and that is something that we actually can change.
5. Start looking at your past and making peace with it. Get in touch with that divine inner mother and inner father within you. By creating that separation, that individuation and really seeing the essence of innocence in our parents, we can just become that nurturing, guiding force within ourselves.
6. When you understand your earliest conditioning and the script that you’re living from, then you can ask yourself, “What beliefs, what rules am I carrying with me now that don’t actually work for me? What is my inner child’s essence really like? What does she really need? And who am I and what do I actually value?”
7. The first steps to change involve getting right with yourself, getting into a better place within yourself, and inviting your partner through your actions, your words, and your boundaries around conflict. If you make the changes authentically and genuinely, you’ll know if that relationship can grow with you, or if you’ve outgrown it.
8. It all comes down to widening our capacity and practicing, letting love in, practicing giving and practicing receiving. And it takes time. We have to go slow with ourselves in order to actually let that be.

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