What’s Holding Us Back From the Career we Want

 

By Cathy Heller, Host and Creator of the Podcast Don’t Keep Your Day Job

People will say that they lack the necessary resources to do what they want. They’ll say they don’t have the time, or they don’t have the money, or they don’t have the ability. These are all excuses.

We become very good friends with our excuses. We rely on our excuses so that we don’t have to face the fact that we’re afraid. If we can rationalize that the only reason we simply can’t go for what we want is because we lack the money, or the time, or we weren’t born into a family with connections, this gives us permission to sit on the sidelines. We will cozy up to these excuses, because they make it impossible for us to even try for what we want—which means we don’t have to risk failing.

The only resource that anyone needs is their own resourcefulness. If you really must do something, you will find the time, money, and connections to make it happen. Imagine you needed to get a certain medicine for your child and you didn’t have the money for it. There’s no doubt that you would find a way to make it happen.

Standing Up to Our Fears

So what is it that we are afraid of? We are afraid we will fail. We are afraid we will make fools of ourselves. We think we won’t have what it takes to go the distance. We compare ourselves to others; we worry that we need to be perfect to even begin, so we won’t start until we have it all together. Since perfection is impossible, we never take the first step. We can’t see the whole path and where it will lead, so we’re afraid to leap and trust that it will evolve on it’s own. We would rather stay on the bench then get in the game for fear that when we’re thrown the ball we won’t be able to measure up.

We vastly underestimate how capable, how smart, how strong, and how brave we really are. We’ve got to stop making excuses. We might be scared and we may not be perfectly ready. That is OK. Everyone is scared and no one is ever perfectly ready for anything. We have to walk forward and trust that it will work out—and it will.

If we have the courage to start, and we use our resourcefulness, we will find a way to make it happen. Every step you take will be equal to 20 steps. Each step will take on a momentum that will help you arrive at where you want to be. Not only will your courage get you there, but it will inspire people around you to start on their own paths too.